Making the Cut
When you held your newborn child, you knew there was greatness to be found inside her/him. Now it’s time to see if they can make the cut. Whether it's dance or a sports team, you had a vision for them, one that had them pirouetting at the Royal Canadian Dance Academy or scoring the winning goal in game seven of the Stanley Cup finals.
Trying out for a new team, dance company, or educational club can be very intimidating to your child and let’s face it, to us parents too. That little voice in our head and in theirs wonders ... do I have what it takes to make it?
As adults, we know that everything we try doesn’t always work out. This is a huge lesson for children to learn, at any age, and one that will help them throughout the course of their life. Let’s face it, some kids won’t make the cut, and how we teach them to deal with it, will define them as they grow and help them in any situation.
Here are a few steps to making that “not so fun conversation” a little easier.
1. They are not alone, remind them of this. Not everyone makes it on their first try, and that’s ok. The fact that they tried out is a huge accomplishment.
2. Make sure they get back up and try again, they might have not been the right fit for that particular team or club. That doesn't applies to every team. Get out there and keep trying.
3. Positive reinforcement from the parent will result in positive outlooks on negative situations. It’s no fun to see your child sad or upset, but joining him/her in the pity party helps no one. Find a positive and focus on it. Ie: new friends they met, staying fit. Whatever it is, find something.
Here is the flip side: your child makes the team or club. That’s great, but your job as the home coach/instructor doesn’t stop once you pass them off to their real coach.
1. Keep their egos in check! I see this all the time; it’s so easy for kids to think they are 'all', because someone wants them on their team. Remember there are others that didn’t make it. Don’t rub it in.
2. Remind them that with making a team comes great commitment, not only to the coach but to the many players/ dancers/ families that are involved.
3. Be responsible. The logo you are playing for is part of an organization that’s out in our community. Respect it, play for it, embrace it. They have chosen your child to be part of their inner circle. Don’t forget that.
Regardless of the outcome, whether your child makes it or doesn’t, you are their number one fan. And at the end of the day, that’s all that matters! So grab your pom poms and be proud of your child!
Stay fit, stay healthy!
About the Author: Sue Forberg is the Director at H2T Elite Dryland Training Inc. H2T is a multi-faceted state of the art dryland facility specializing in children the ages 5-16. A gym for kids you say... absolutely. Their primary goal is to enhance the quality of life for young people through exercise and proper nutrition. H2T has created a fun age appropriate dryland program that gives every child what he/she needs from a developmental standpoint. Find out more at www.H2Tdryland.com.